What do a Sex Coach and a Preschool Administrator have in common?
You might be surprised to find out that in times like these...quite a bit!
We chatted with Victor Warren, a Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach and Liz Napp, a Program Administrator at Sunflower Farm, last week and we wanted to share our powerful discussion with you.
We hope you find this roundtable around social norms, consent, and boundaries as enlightening and inspiring as we did.
And if you've watched our conversation and feel inspired to take ACTION, here are a few next steps SpiralMethod can offer:
And you can also...
In the midst of social distancing, are you feeling disconnected?
Are you leading a group (from your family, to your business) that you know could flow more smoothly...but aren't sure how?
As the SpiralMethod team grows, and during such extreme circumstances in the world, we are leaning in to these questions and our desire for genuine connection more than ever.
We decided to record a mini SpiralMethod event of our team together on Zoom, because we thought it would be helpful for you to see what a session looks like and how simple it is to connect more deeply, even in a short period of time.
I’m wondering if you are feeling like you or your groups are floating out there a bit? And would you like to get your groups connected AND serve others?
I am talking with people all day every day, and those people are connected to a lot of other people and people. From what I’m hearing there are two groups right now. Some that are pretty calm, and a larger group, about 60%, are not doing so well. Ranging from not wanting to get out of bed, working way too much, overwhelmed between work and kids, not having a schedule, fear or even terror….and a longing to be able to hug and congregate with each other again.
All, or at least most, of our normal structures for social interaction and communing have disappeared.
Most of us are starting to come to terms with the fact that a whole new way of socializing is upon us, and it’s probably going to last a lot longer than we’d thought or would like....
The past week was rough
I have felt grief larger than my own
A physiological response of fear for the virus (like holding my breath at the store)
A fear of what if we don’t actually change from this disruption
A relief that the “normal” way of life has stopped
A deep trust of the perfection of it all
An excitement that this is the disruption many of us have been waiting for
An intense pressure to move quickly to share the tools I have with the world
A prompt for curiosity
Is this pressure simply my own trauma response?
the one where leading helps one deal with the disruption
Or the one where we want to save people as part of our own reaction to trauma
Or keeping busy to avoid the discomfort of the collapse, the ambiguity, the stillness
(I know all of these intimately from numerous past traumas where these were my primary responses)
Or even wondering if I’m trying to leverage this opportunity to make money
Clarity this weekend
When are we going to get back to normal? How do I make decisions until then? And more importantly, when is this whole thing going to go blow over?
If you're asking these questions, this is very normal inside of any disruption where it feels like the ground is being taken out from under you. This is what we ask when we just want to get back to how things were. I'm here to help. There are six specific things for you to remember right now and keep an eye on as you navigate this for your own individual wellbeing, as well as the people that you're serving and the collective wellbeing.
If we are aware of the process that we're going through, we will have a much easier time navigating these waters of disruption. I'm Leslie Jones. I am on a mission to end the...
Hi, I'm Leslie Jones. I'm the creator of the groundbreaking spiral method, a holistic leadership development ecosystem for companies and communities. I've been an executive coach for about 25 years now and have worked with major corporations, small to midsize companies, CEOs, and C-suite leadership teams all around North America and the globe. I am on a mission to bridge the disconnection gap and I equip leaders with very simple tools to lead group conversations that create connection and power that are, for many people, produce the kind of results that they didn't even know was possible.
I'd like to talk about the necessity of check-ins. How do you have an effective meeting check-in? In one of the last videos that I did, I had you preparing yourself to get in the space where you are able to be calm, grounded, and be in action with intention and precision.
I want to make sure you're in that space before you go to lead your team and do a check-in because they will follow your...
Hi, I'm Leslie Jones. I am the creator of the SpiralMethod. This is a groundbreaking leadership development ecosystem for communities and companies. I have been an executive coach and facilitator for 25 years now working with major corporations, small to midsize companies, CEOs and C-suite leadership teams. I'm on a mission to end the disconnection gap that we've found ourselves in. I teach leaders how to have group conversations that bring a level of connection and power to any group of people that brings a level of collaboration and results that we haven't even known as possible.
Today, I want to talk about getting yourself ready to lead during these challenging times and making sure that you're ready to bring powerful leadership forward. In order to talk about moving forward, we have to acknowledge the past for a moment.
The norm has been polarity, arguing, lots of conversation around opinions; who's right and who's wrong, unfocused attention, withdrawal, action...
During our recent SpiralMethod Boot Camp training, I was put on the Hot Seat. This is a communication game where everyone (in this case the Boot Camp trainees) gets to ask any question of me that they want. I don’t have to answer at all and I don’t have to answer truthfully…it’s my choice. That is part of the game. I was pretty excited to be the subject of the game because I’ve been leading it for over a decade and rarely do I get to be the one receiving the questions. Believe me, it’s actually fun and transformational to play this game!
During the game, the questions tend to follow a thread, and if it’s a “hot” one we stay on it. One of the first questions was “What intimidates you?” and one of my answers was “Successful, very put together people.” The next question was “What does success mean to you?” My answer to that was “To die without regret.” I had many other thoughts,...
Throw a group of people together into one space, add sugar and alcohol, stress from daily life, worry about the state of the world, and plenty of passion and opinions about how to fix things. Now stir in family history and family dynamics with decades of patterning and you’ve created the perfect environment for misinterpretation, tension, stress, pretense, survival, and blow-ups. It’s a miracle we still expect to leave our holiday gatherings feeling connected and restored! Yet, most of us continue to have high hopes (often forgetting how last year ended up) and look forward to our time with family.
Whether this explains your family to a tee, or you are one of the unique situations where your family gets along swimmingly, here’s a bold idea that will help create another level of intimacy and nourishment for all.
Set the communication stage!
Start out with a family meeting (could be an email announcement/invitation or even a sign on the door) upon...